If I could offer you only one tip for the future, writing would be it.
Everyone can write lists, make one: budget, bucket, grocery, names you need to forget (and then highlight them with a black Sharpie, hah!). Journal. Professor Google can point you to studies that can back up the benefits of this habit, whereas I can only dispense advice in the name of nostalgia and hindsight.
Eat, drink, and get married. In any case, stock up on antihistamines. All three can be allergy triggers.
JM & Kim, December 2012
Travel to foreign places with familiar faces. Regardless of iMaps, you are never really lost beside a friend. Rent in the city– that is, hundreds of miles away from your parents’ house– with your little sister because it orients you with both the dynamics of independent and of collaborative living.
With Ed, Len, Grace, and Ayesa in Puerto Princesa, Palawan, November 2012
With Ayesa, Hazel, and Mia in Davao City, December 2012
Let go of unhealthy and open yourself up to new friendships. But keep the ones you’ve had when you were so much younger. Here’s to hoping you and those you lost are now better off without each other.
With office friends Joey, JB, RJ, and Apple at the company Christmas party, December 2012
With college friends Ed, Len, Ayesa, Grace, Skee, and Joecyl, December 2012
Love in the time of eczema. When people cut you off in the airport queue or in highly competitive environments (read: work), keep calm and eat chocolates. Sarah Kay said they’re only few things chocolate can’t fix. When you find this to be true, message me on Facebook. Appreciate the advancement of others. Crab mentality is so 1900s. Cram, but only when you have more than 24 hours in your hand.
Visit museums. Better yet, volunteer to tour kids around them. This is a lesson in parenting, or at least in the art and science of running after gradeschoolers when you’re yearning to ogle Monet. Mundane or divine, it’s still one of the best feelings in the world, that is, hugging a child when you finally catch them.
Cry while watching musicals. Eat while zombies are ripping their victims limb from limb. Sometimes you have to balance hard and soft. I’m still figuring out the ratio though.
Do the living and learning in the moment, not at the end of the year when making resolutions becomes a poor excuse for missing a day out of the 365.
Read. Travel. Collect playlists. Don’t be scared to be 25, or that you have been or will be.
And trust me on the writing.
“In my life, writing has been an important exercise to clarify what I believe, what I see, what I care about, what my deepest values are. The process of converting a jumble of thoughts into coherent sentences makes you ask tougher questions.”
~ Barack Obama, President of the United States, Time’s 2012 Person of the Year
The mid-2012 version
The 2011 version.
Thanks to Baz Lurhmann and his song.